If nothing ever changed, there'd be no butterflies. ~Author Unknown

If nothing ever changed, there'd be no butterflies. ~Author Unknown

Recently as I was about to set up my new venture as a Coach (www.davemartin.org.uk ) I needed an accountant. I was explaining to him what coaching was about – people seeking something to be different, some kind of change in their lives.

“In my experience people rarely change”, was his rather dismissive retort.


Hmmnn well then according to him I’m fxxxed!


Actually in my (admittedly relatively limited) experience people may not change but they do makes changes… sometimes seemingly small changes which snowball… they changes circumstances, their outlook, attitude and feel better about things.


The first step is acknowledging that change is possible….and that they’re willing to take the action to bring it about. 


The following is an extract from an interview by Rebelgirl on Newsvine with Barry Zweibel, a Master Certified Coach, specializing in Executive Coaching and Life Coaching    http://rebelgirl.newsvine.com/_news/2008/09/19/1885905-interview-with-barry-zweibel-of-gotta-getta-coach-inc-


 “Rebelgirl: What do you find is the biggest struggle for people like me, who are seeking to make their life better, but unsure on where to start?

Barry: The BIG THREE limiters are:

(1) One’s own negative self-talk

(2) One’s family, friends, and colleagues who may mean well, but still manage to routinely undermine one’s confidence, emotional well-being, and ultimate desire for change

(3) The self-limiting beliefs inherent in, and associated with, items (1) and (2) Because of the BIG THREE, most people never even get to the ‘where to start’ question – it’s as if they’re “tasered” into giving up before they even get started. Very sad. Indeed, if you’re stuck and not sure why, chances are one or more (likely all three) of the BIG THREE are nipping at your heels.”


Finally, after pondering the wise accountants remark, I’m pleased to say I’ve been fortunate to work with people who have indeed grappled with Barry’s big three and have made changes and as a result made their lives better.


The key to change… is to let go of fear.”  Rosanne Cash