The New Yorker

The New Yorker

 

It’s that time of year again when people think of changes they’d like to make for the incoming year. According to Wikipedia – A New Year’s resolution is a commitment that an individual makes to a project or the reforming of a habit, often a lifestyle change that is generally interpreted as advantageous. The name comes from the fact that these commitments normally go into effect on New Year’s Day and remain until fulfilled or abandoned http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/New_Year’s_resolution .

 

The New York Times had an article yesterday http://www.nytimes.com/2009/01/01/fashion/01change.html?_r=1     which referred to John C. Norcross, a clinical psychologist at the University of Scranton in Pennsylvania who has studied such resolutions. He had found that after six months, only about 45 percent of the subjects managed to stick to their pledges.

 

“Most of us think that we can change our lives if we just summon the willpower and try even harder this time around,” said Alan Deutschman, the former executive director of Unboundary, and the author of “Change or Die,” a book that asserts that even though most people have the ability to change, they rarely do. “It’s exceptionally hard to make life changes,” Mr. Deutschman said, “and our efforts are usually doomed to failure when we try to do it on our own.”

In my brief experience of working with folks who wish to make changes www.davemartin.org.uk   it’s helpful to work through the desire to make changes with somebody… plan realistic ways to bring them about, be held accountable but most of all have a goal rather than just making the change. So if you’re gonna stop drinking… what’s the real goal? And what are you going to do with the cash saved? How will you celebrate and feel good about achieving this goal? 

As for me I’m giving up a lifetime habit of making lists everyday, this is why…….

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A Happy New Year and a Happy New You! Enjoy!

 

 

 

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